The Gift of Failure - important and fascinating information on why we need to let our kids struggle and fail and how we can mess our kids up by helping them too much and/or expecting too much of our children. I think I'll invite the author/interviewee to be on Power of Moms Radio. I've got more questions for her!
Important ideas about how to make great conversation - stuff that's especially important for moms like me who are trying to engage their kids in meaningful conversation and who are too-often distracted!
Celeste Headlee:10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation
Here are my notes from her talk. I totally used this yesterday afternoon in my interactions with my kids and felt like a pretty darn good mom.
1. Don't multitask - don't be half in conversations. Listen fully.
2. Don't pontificate (that's what blogs are for). Everyone you ever meet knows something that you don't know. Find out what that is. Listening isn't just waiting until you get a chance to talk.
3. Ask open-ended questions, not yes or no questions. Start your questions with who, what, when, where and why.
4. Go with the flow. Thoughts/questions will come into your mind and then go out of your mind if you're really following what people are saying. Don't be so attached to the questions and thoughts you want to share that you don't end up asking questions or making comments that really connect to what the person is currently saying.
5. If you don't know, admit it. Say that you don't know.
6. Don't equate your experience to theirs. All experiences are individual. You can never understand fully what someone else is going through. Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.
7. Try not to repeat yourself. It's so easy to keep saying the same thing over and over again in different ways.
8. Stay out of the weeds. The details don't really matter - the exact date, the exact place - just leave them out.
9. Listen. This is the most important skill you can develop. If your mouth is open, you are not learning. The average person talks at 200 words per minute but our brains can absorb 500 words per minute as we absorb and fill in as we're really paying attention.
10. Be brief.
Keep your mind open and your mouth shut and be prepared to be amazed by the wonderful things people will share with you.