Unkind Anonymous Comments

To those few people out there who have left less-than-kind anonymous comments on my blog from time to time, I ask, what is your point?  You know that I will delete them before many people will see them so obviously what you write is meant just for me.  So if you'd like to offer constructive criticism in a kind way, please go ahead and do so but just email me directly at saren(at)powerofmoms(dot)com.

I've talked to other bloggers and apparently this anonymous-unkind-comment thing is all too common. I don't get it. We all see things on blogs sometimes that may not resonate with us and may not be that helpful to us and may even offend or bother us, but can't we be nicer with our criticism or simply leave it alone?  Why be mean to bloggers who are obviously trying to help through their blogs?  And if we are ashamed to put our name to what we've written, shouldn't we realize maybe we shouldn't be posting it at all?

If you don't appreciate what is offered on my blog or at Power of Moms, you are most welcome to NOT visit these sites.

• If the "silver lining" attitude I muster up when things are hard in my life is bothersome to you, that's too bad.  It's very therapeutic to me to work through my hard stuff by writing and find the positive - and I've had many emails from people saying those posts really helped them.  
• If my sharing of happiness and successes feels like bragging, I'm sorry.  I need to record the good stuff because,  believe me, there's plenty of really really hard stuff that I don't share on this blog because it's either too personal or involves other people whose confidentiality I respect.  It really helps me to counteract the hard stuff with the celebration of the positive so I can keep my head up. 
• If you don't want to hear about free webinars or books by my parents or offer great resources and ideas to help your family offered by Power of Moms, skip over posts that address those things or don't come to my blog.  I'm going to keep sharing resources that I've seen make a big difference in my life and in the lives of countless other families.  

This is my personal and family journal and I've made it public because it seems to be helpful and interesting to a lot of other people.  But mostly, I write this blog because I need the therapy it provides me and because I want to remember for myself and for my posterity what mothering is like for me, what I'm learning, and what experiences we're having as a family.  I want my daughter and future daughters-in-law to be able to read about the things I've figured out through trial and error and maybe it will be enriching to their lives as mothers one day.

If you find what I write to be useful in your own life as a mother and want to add your voice to meaningful conversations about what works and what matters through your comments, that is wonderful and I'm so glad to have you here.  But throwing out biting anonymous comments is just not cool.  So please stop.