Sometimes being a mom is really hard. Like really REALLY hurt-your-heart, wonder-if-you've failed kind of hard.
I won't go into details but I just feel like I should say that even thought I run a website called "Power of Moms" and I blog about lots of great stuff going on in our family, I sure don't have all the answers. In fact, sometimes I feel like a total fraud writing articles about motherhood and putting on conferences about motherhood when I so clearly know SO little in the grand scheme of things.
But you know what? I'm trying. When things are hard, I think hard and pray hard and talk with my husband a lot and talk to the kids a lot and try new things and fail and try again.
I celebrate the things that are good a lot on this blog. I post photos and pictures of my kids' accomplishments and our fun family adventures and the things I've figured out that work pretty well in motherhood. Sometimes I post about really hard days I've had and stuff I'm struggling with. But a lot of the hard stuff isn't really stuff that would be good to share here. Some things need to be private.
And the more I talk with other moms, the more I realize that this is the norm. Every mom has hard stuff that most people can't see. We can look at just about any mom's life and think things look pretty darn nice. But under the surface, there are pretty much always heartaches and struggles - some huge, some medium, some small.
Just know that no matter how things may look to you, no one has a perfect life. As you struggle, know that you're not alone and that beneath the Sunday-best behavior and the smiling waves from other moms at school drop-off, there are hard things that most every mother is dealing with. It's not that other moms are trying to pretend that their lives are perfect. It's that they're often dealing with hard stuff that needs to be private for a variety of reasons so they're keeping it inside.
So let's all be gentle with each other. Let's assume the best of people while knowing they may be dealing with the worst. Let's realize that life is hard for everyone in different ways. And let's listen and love whenever we get the chance to really talk to another mom.